Grow New Networks - My Nonviolent Communication
Light at Last - a blog about weight loss
Dorothy Rodwell, LMFT
September 14, 2015
It is good to know
Talking makes a difference
To me and myself
While noticing how others are treating us as we strengthen
our healthy eating habits it’s important to also note how we are treating
ourselves. Sometimes, we do not treat
ourselves like a trusted friend and instead act like we are in a battle between
me and myself. In a way we can consider
that to be our logical mind and our emotional mind.
What to do?
How we talk to our emotional mind makes a difference.
Marshall Rosenberg developed a process of nonviolent
communication and it fits well into the discussion here. There are four parts to this communication
process: observation, feelings, needs, and requests. By observing what I see, hear, imagine, or
remember without evaluation the first step is taken. What am I observing? I am observing whatever does not contribute
to my wellbeing around intelligent eating.
Here is an example of this process in action. When I see that I have eaten two portions of
ice cream…… I feel sad ….because I need to know that I can count on doing what
I want to do with my eating…..Am I willing to stop after one portion and eat a
healthy sweet instead?
As each eating celebration happens daily, new habits form
and new networks are formed in the brain.
For today be curious not
furious!
There is a pdf download of this process at http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/pdf_files/4part_nvc_process.pdf
