Improvise - Sabotage From Friends or Just a Miscommunication?
Light at Last - a blog about weight loss
Dorothy Rodwell, LMFT
August 20, 2015
Noticing a time
When others offer comfort food
That upsets the plan
You are on track and that feels really good! You are eating well, being active, and
setting and getting your feedback that the body is responding to all that you
are doing ….and likes it! In fact, you
are noticing that the idea that “I enjoy becoming thin” is sounding and feeling
true. In fact, it is guiding you toward
a lifestyle success. What a great
makeover is in progress!
And then you notice that others are not having the same
response to your new adventure. Your
friend may be eating fat laden foods and
offering them to you. Other friends are
with you and yet, they offer advice about becoming too thin and how obsessive you
have become. What’s happening?
No, your friends have
not abandoned you but their subconscious/emotional mind is taking charge. Remember they are not you and have not been
inside your body/mind as you have been shifting thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. Their connection to you had been based on their
past relationship to food and to you.
Now that you have changed a bit, it may take some time for them to
adjust and tune into your success. And
they may miss the food connection that you had in the past.
There is an interesting article by Colleen Pierre in Prevention
called Dieting With The Enemy: Are
friends and family making you fat. The
website is http://www.prevention.com/weight-loss/weight-loss-tips/weight-loss-sabotage-friends-and-family.
Consider that being on the journey to joyful living the way you
wish is the real prize! Remember that
love in the connection; not food.
By communicating honestly and kindly, others can enjoy your
joy as well. Next week I’ll discuss the
work of Marshall Rosenberg and specific examples of how to communicate when
difficult feelings are involved.
